Misconception of Beauty

From costly procedures to the next fad diet women everywhere think they need to alter themselves to get ahead in life.

Is it survival of the fittest in some acute sense that pushes women to change themselves?

In their minds, is it their personal truth that only the beautiful prevail?

When did long straight flowing locks become the only acceptable form of beauty?

In Hollywood and many parts of America many other women of color are expected to share this quality.

Perhaps modeling agencies and their plethora of exotic beauties that strut down catwalks had some influence on the standard of beauty.

While some women are satisfied with a simple auburn to blond dye job, others go under the knife to get a perfectly cinched waist.

On one hand, you cannot really blame women in the entertainment business for making sure everything on them is perfect.

In Hollywood, a young stick figure blond is more likely to further her career and get roles than a curvy middle-age woman for the same role even without it being about ethnicity.

Robust women in Hollywood are usually not in serious roles and are even more rarely leading actresses. They tend to play the funny or quirky fat sidekick that overcomes all odds as part of a sideplot.

Eventually Hollywood forces her onto to use some highly sought after trainer and diet just so she’ll be taken seriously.

Just like Hollywood women, young girls model themselves after what has become the standard of beauty instead of learning to love what they already have.

Young girls with a decent amount of meat on their bones starve themselves just to see a gap between their thighs that isn’t a natural muscle formation.

What happened since the 1970s that told women they could not be free to express themselves in its purest form?

African-American men and women alike used to proudly wear magnificent Afros. Now the Afro is labeled unkempt or exotic depending on the venue.

“Natural” to Black women can mean doing their hair without much alteration, especially chemical: braids, pressing or anything considered protective.

Black women practically kill themselves to have perfect hair. Some do it just to fit in with their lighter skinned counterparts. Others do it because natural until recently, has been widely frowned upon.

Black women you are automatically expected to have a weave in your hair and Ebonics flowing from your lips.

Where did the natural woman go, is she afraid to be herself due to ridicule and ignorance?

For the sake of young women everywhere I pray she comes back soon.


Dancers or pint-sized robots?

Dancing is not just about hitting your counts; it is about living and breathing the music. To dance is to express yourself or tell a story like no one else can.

Lifetime’s Dance Moms shows the weekly coming and goings of about nine budding dancers. Each girl is pitted against each other in pursuit to bring glory to the Abby Lee Dance Company.

There is nothing wrong with a little competition but if all they do is practice, what happens to their childhoods?

Abby Lee Miller’s company does not create dancers with passion; it creates dancers that hunt after gold trophies and blue ribbons.

These girls are not nurtured into being works of moving art, but rather robots systematically doing counts.

Abby Lee verbally abuses the young impressionable girls if the smallest move is not to her liking.

Their personal feelings just do not appear to matter at all to Abby.

That is just not right.

People make mistakes all the time and are forgiven. However, whenever they make mistakes the dancers are chastised and degraded.

Though Abby Lee is mostly to blame for what is sure to be a psychotic based breakdown later on in life, you cannot forget about the mothers.

The dance moms whom the show is named after also push their girls to their limits.

Instead of pushing their daughters just enough to light a fire under them they’re pushed to be the definition of perfect.

Abby’s toughness will create strong professional dancers, but at what cost?

The Abby Lee Miller Dance Company does have one constructive thing in place, a pyramid to show whom the top dancer is.

The pyramid, however, is mainly used as another tool to tear the girls down.

As Abby goes through the pyramid she raises the dancers self-esteem and then brings it right back down only to thrust them right into rehearsal.

God forbid the dance company faces what seems to be their nemesis, The Candy Apple Dance Company.

Abby turns into more of a monster then usual with the girls taking on this assault.

How the girls are treated is simply barbaric. It’s mind boggling how any of this isn’t considered child abuse.

Perhaps due to dance moms being a reality show people consider these events a reality of society.

Even Kelly Hyland of Dance Moms admits Abby sucks the life out of her own child.

Abby isn’t all to blame though, if Kelly can admit Abby is a succubus then why does she continue to let the verbal abuse ensue?

Yes, Abby is a bully, but these women are adults that need to stop letting the show go to their heads.

Trying to find a villain in this show is like looking for the worst of the worst: you may find a winner, but they’re all bad.

Very rarely does this show have feel good moments and when it does it never makes up for the overall toxicity.

When the girls win, are they genuinely happy? Or are they happy because they met expectations?

Dancers are things of beauty and grace, so why do the girls of Dance Moms seem so much like automatons?